gay-men
gay-men:

I used to hear people proclaiming themselves to be tolerant much more than I do now. Maybe some of them came around to the fact that saying you’re ‘tolerant’ of someone can come off as condescending. At worst it’s even code for ‘I want you to go away but can’t get rid of you’. More often than not it is/was directed at sexuality or gender identity too. Should anyone ever decide to tell me that they ‘tolerate’ my sexuality, it’s not someone I will perceive to be a compliment. You tolerate an annoying skin condition, not a person.

gay-men:

I used to hear people proclaiming themselves to be tolerant much more than I do now. Maybe some of them came around to the fact that saying you’re ‘tolerant’ of someone can come off as condescending. At worst it’s even code for ‘I want you to go away but can’t get rid of you’. More often than not it is/was directed at sexuality or gender identity too. Should anyone ever decide to tell me that they ‘tolerate’ my sexuality, it’s not someone I will perceive to be a compliment. You tolerate an annoying skin condition, not a person.